It’s Valentine’s Day, and whether you are in a relationship at the moment or not, it’s good to be really clear about what the qualities of a healthy relationship are.

He loves me:

  • Makes me feel safe
  • Makes me feel comfortable
  • Listens to me
  • Values my opinions
  • Supports what I want to do in life
  • Is truthful with me
  • Admits to being wrong
  • Respects me
  • Always tries to understand how I feel
  • Likes that I have other friends
  • Makes me laugh
  • Trusts me
  • Treats me as an equal
  • Respects my family
  • Understands my need for time alone or with family
  • Accepts me as I am

These are the qualities of a healthy relationship. You deserve a healthy relationship.

He loves me not:

  • Is jealous
  • Is possessive
  • Tries to control me
  • Gets violent, lose temper quickly
  • Always blames me
  • Is sexually demanding
  • Keeps me from seeing my friends and family
  • Makes all the decisions
  • Embarrasses me in front of others
  • Hits me
  • Makes me cry
  • Makes me feel afraid
  • Is always ‘checking up’ on me
  • Takes my money and other things
  • Threatens to leave if I don’t do what I’m told
  • Teases, bullies and puts me down

If you recognise these warning signs, you or someone you know might be a victim of abuse. You are not alone. Help and advice can be found by calling The National Domestic Violence Helpline on 0808 2000 247.

You deserve a healthy relationship.

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