It’s Valentine’s Day, and whether you are in a relationship at the moment or not, it’s good to be really clear about what the qualities of a healthy relationship are.
He loves me:
- Makes me feel safe
- Makes me feel comfortable
- Listens to me
- Values my opinions
- Supports what I want to do in life
- Is truthful with me
- Admits to being wrong
- Respects me
- Always tries to understand how I feel
- Likes that I have other friends
- Makes me laugh
- Trusts me
- Treats me as an equal
- Respects my family
- Understands my need for time alone or with family
- Accepts me as I am
These are the qualities of a healthy relationship. You deserve a healthy relationship.
He loves me not:
- Is jealous
- Is possessive
- Tries to control me
- Gets violent, lose temper quickly
- Always blames me
- Is sexually demanding
- Keeps me from seeing my friends and family
- Makes all the decisions
- Embarrasses me in front of others
- Hits me
- Makes me cry
- Makes me feel afraid
- Is always ‘checking up’ on me
- Takes my money and other things
- Threatens to leave if I don’t do what I’m told
- Teases, bullies and puts me down
If you recognise these warning signs, you or someone you know might be a victim of abuse. You are not alone. Help and advice can be found by calling The National Domestic Violence Helpline on 0808 2000 247.
You deserve a healthy relationship.